It’s funny how we hear people talk all the time about success like it’s something tangible.  A specific goal we all must strive to accomplish.

The thing is, success is actually very subjective.  What might mean success to me doesn’t have to mean success to you.  We all want different things, but with one goal in mind.  To be happy.

The problem is that our mind isn’t designed to make us happy, or successful.  It’s designed for survival.

You’re going to hear me say this a gazillion times.  Your mind’s top priority is to keep you alive.  And it will do whatever it takes to keep you from doing things that can hurt you.

Now, your mind pretty much fears anything that it considers unknown.  It likes for things to stay the same, predictable.  It doesn’t like things to change.

Basically what it does is it creates a “comfort zone” around the things, people, and circumstances you already know, so that you feel comfortable in this safe zone because -based on experience- you already know you can survive there.

But “comfortable” is rarely a synonym for “happy”.

This is the reason why you see people in destructive relationships, who know it, yet they can’t find the power to get out of it.

They’re miserably comfortable… If that makes sense.

Your mind uses a set of tools that have evolved over time to create a powerful message that convinces you to not do anything different than what you already know.  But like Albert Einstein famously said, “the definition of insanity is to do something the same way over and over again and expect different results”.

Yet this is what we do with our lives.  We expect things to change while we comfortably exist inside this safety zone our mind has created for us, thinking the same thoughts, going to the same places, with the same people, doing the same things we always do, the same way we always do them.

You tell me… is that not insane?  We become like robots (I prefer the term zombies), semi-mindless beings reacting to the world based on information we already know and accept, with no intention to change it.

But what can we do about this?

Well, it really is true, that life begins where your comfort zone ends.  Take it from an ex-comfort zone addict.  When you decide to step out into the world you don’t know, and begin doing things you don’t know how to do, and meet people you normally wouldn’t even think of meeting, your whole existence changes, for the better.

You begin to see new opportunities that have been there all along, you become more successful, you realize why it is that you hadn’t been successful before, you cease to merely “exist” and begin to really LIVE.

Best of all, you become happy.

So today you have a choice.  Will you decide in favor of your fear and remain inside your mini bubble-based existence, or will you take a bold step outside into the world, where the magic happens, and your happiness awaits?

Your choice.

Where the Magic Happens

2 thoughts on “Where the Magic Happens

  • October 14, 2013 at 5:57 am

    Happy to share some space on the “Happy Button!” Just wanted to comment on your post…I couldn’t agree with you more that “Life begins at the edge of your comfort zone.” That is so true.

    How can someone be happy if they don’t have a destination? Happiness stems from the enjoyment, anticipation and excitement of knowing where you are going and figuring out how you are going to get there…otherwise, a person is just lost. And no one likes being lost!

    Great article and continue to have a Great Happy Day!

    To your continued success,


  • October 25, 2013 at 4:46 pm

    out of the comfort zone, into a life of happy-by design! Yes! Thank you!


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